:: There are so many rules about how people interact that are gender based, not just for women but also for men. ::
Yes. In my comment above, where I equate "male" with "unmarked" with "free", that's not a statement about how it actually is to be a man. (Because, whoah, men get gender-policed with a vengeance!) It's more of a statement about how my gut sees the gender thing when I'm standing over here being female and once again wishing I could take off my breasts and hips so people would just stop treating me like my gender defines or qualifies everything about me.
The fantasies my id has of being male would not much match the reality, I think.
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Yes. In my comment above, where I equate "male" with "unmarked" with "free", that's not a statement about how it actually is to be a man. (Because, whoah, men get gender-policed with a vengeance!) It's more of a statement about how my gut sees the gender thing when I'm standing over here being female and once again wishing I could take off my breasts and hips so people would just stop treating me like my gender defines or qualifies everything about me.
The fantasies my id has of being male would not much match the reality, I think.